Prostate Massagers

The prostate is sometimes called the "male G-spot," and honestly the comparison is fair. It's a small, walnut-sized gland that sits a couple of inches inside the anus, towards the front of the body. When stimulated, it can produce orgasms that feel completely different from penile ones: deeper, slower to build, and often more intense when they arrive.

A prostate massager is shaped to reach this specific spot and apply pressure or vibration directly to it. If you've been curious about prostate play but didn't know where to start, this is the guide. For broader anal play advice, see our anal sex toys guide. For the wider range of male sex toys, head there.

A prostate massager is a curved anal toy designed to angle towards the front of the body once inserted, pressing against the prostate gland through the rectal wall. The curve is the defining feature. Without it, you'd have to angle a straight toy manually, which is awkward and hard to sustain.

Non-vibrating massagers (like the Aneros range) rely on your body's own muscle contractions to create movement against the prostate. They're designed to rock and pivot with your pelvic floor muscles. The experience is subtle and builds slowly, but fans of this approach swear by it.

Vibrating massagers have a motor in the tip that delivers vibration directly to the prostate. These provide more immediate stimulation and are generally easier for beginners because you don't need to develop the muscle awareness that non-vibrating models require. Brands like Satisfyer and Doc Johnson make excellent vibrating prostate toys.

All prostate massagers have a flared base, T-bar, or external arm that prevents the toy from being pulled inside. Many also have a perineum stimulator: an external arm that presses against the perineum (the area between the anus and testicles), stimulating the prostate from outside at the same time as the internal arm works from inside.

Lube generously. Water-based anal lubricant, applied to the toy and to yourself. The anus produces no natural lubrication, so you need plenty.

Insert with the curve pointing forward (towards your belly button/penis). Slide it in slowly until the tip is about 2 to 3 inches deep. You should feel the curved tip pressing against the front wall of the rectum. The prostate sits behind this wall, and it feels like a small, firm bump.

For vibrating models, turn it on low once it's in position. Let the vibration work for a minute or two before adjusting. Many people find a medium, rumbly setting more effective than maximum power. The prostate responds better to sustained, moderate stimulation than to intense buzzing.

For non-vibrating models, squeeze and release your pelvic floor muscles (the same muscles you use to stop urination midstream). Each contraction rocks the massager against the prostate. It's subtle at first, but with practice the sensation builds. This is sometimes called "hands-free" prostate play because you don't need to move the toy manually.

The "need to urinate" feeling is normal. The prostate sits right next to the bladder, and pressing on it can create a sensation similar to needing to wee. This is actually a sign you've found the right spot. The feeling usually passes after a minute or so as your body adjusts. Empty your bladder before you start if it helps you relax.

Warm water and antibacterial soap after every use. Non-porous silicone massagers can be boiled for full sterilisation. Pay attention to any seams or joints, especially around the base and any perineum arm. Dry thoroughly before storing.

A completely different type of orgasm. Prostate orgasms are often described as full-body experiences rather than the localised sensation of a penile orgasm. They tend to build more slowly and last longer. Some men describe them as rolling waves rather than a single peak. Not everyone achieves a prostate orgasm on the first try, and that's normal. It can take several sessions to learn what works for your body.

Potential health benefits. Regular prostate massage increases blood flow to the gland and may help relieve symptoms of prostatitis (prostate inflammation) and pelvic tension. Some urologists recommend prostate massage as a complementary approach for men with chronic pelvic pain. It's not a medical treatment on its own, but it's a recognised wellness practice.

It doesn't define your sexuality. This still needs saying, apparently. Enjoying prostate stimulation has nothing to do with sexual orientation. The prostate is an anatomical feature that responds to stimulation regardless of who you are or who you're attracted to. Straight men enjoy prostate play. So do gay men, bisexual men, and everyone else.

Enhances penile orgasms too. Even if you don't achieve a standalone prostate orgasm, using a massager during regular masturbation or sex often makes penile orgasms significantly stronger. The internal pressure adds a dimension of sensation that intensifies whatever else is happening.

Give it time. Prostate play is not usually an instant-gratification experience. Many men need 3 to 5 sessions before they start to really feel the benefit. The body needs time to learn what prostate stimulation feels like and how to respond to it. Don't give up after one attempt.

Combine with masturbation. Using a prostate massager while you masturbate normally is the easiest way to experience the added sensation. The prostate stimulation enhances the penile orgasm, giving you a stronger finish. Once you're familiar with the feeling, you can experiment with prostate-only orgasms if you want to.

Try different positions. On your back with knees bent, on all fours, lying on your side. Each position changes the angle of the massager against the prostate. Many people find one position works much better than others for their body.

Engage your pelvic floor. Squeezing and releasing your PC muscles while using a prostate massager (vibrating or not) creates internal movement that enhances the stimulation. It's like the massager and your muscles working together.

Under £15: basic silicone prostate toys with a simple curve. No vibration. A fine starting point for seeing if you enjoy internal prostate stimulation.

£15 to £40: vibrating prostate massagers with rechargeable motors, multiple settings, and ergonomic designs. Brands like Doc Johnson and CalExotics sit here. This is where most people find their preferred toy.

£40 to £70: premium vibrating massagers from Satisfyer, app-connected models, and the Aneros range of non-vibrating massagers (which are engineered to a very high standard). Quieter motors, more patterns, better silicone.

Over £70: top-end prostate toys with dual motors (one for the prostate, one for the perineum), app control, and luxury build quality. Worth it for men who've discovered they love prostate play and want the best experience.